When I was in high school and college I had many close guy
friends. A select few I did everything
with. They were always dependable and
always comfortable. However, once they
found the one they wanted to spend their lives with, I was no longer any part
of their lives. I get it...I don't want
my one day (hopefully) husband hanging out with other girls. I would never dream of asking any married guy
to come hang out alone, ever. I don't
think it's okay. But, I couldn't fathom
that it would go so far as to not respond to a public facebook post, (not even
a private message, just one in plain daylight for all to see).
I tend to find that the men I was friends with, or even
dated at one point, are fine with responding to their married female
friends...as if they are safe. I'm not asking to be BFFs, I just want a response now and then to know I'm still in the realm of friendship material. So, if I
never get married, does that mean I am always a threat? I mean, honestly, I am friends with most of
the wives. I don't send private
messages. And I LIVE IN KOREA...way on
the other side of the pond from all of them.
So, what is it about me? Why does
the friendship just basically stop completely?
Is it a trust agreement with the spouse?
Do they feel guilt about corresponding with a former female friend that
is still single? I don't get it, but it
has hurt me in the past and at times still does. So much so, I have purposely not gotten close
to any guy friends in the past 6 or so years so it wouldn't happen again. It is hard losing someone you care about and
being ignored.
Can someone explain it to me? Why is it so unhealthy to respond in a public
way to a single girl that was once a close friend? I'm just puzzled.
